I had a great e-mail yesterday from one of my subscribers

asking me how I get so much done (I get less done than

you'd think)

It got me thinking about why we do the things we do.
Your subconsious mind is amazing, it is the genius that runs

your body and life
Our rational mind is great fun too but compared to the

subconsious it pales in importance when it comes to

understanding behaviour
Back when I'd finished my Psychology degree and we started

New Insights I was fortunate enough to coach many many

people from multi millionaires to Diplomats, Celebrities to

homeless guys on the streets and much much more.
I began to see a predictable pattern that went something

like this:
Some (percieved) painful event in someones past creates

emotional pain.
The subconscous mind creates a set of new behaviors to

help avoid that pain in the future
whilst the higher mind brings the necessary circumstances

into being to show you the value of it
The rational mind cannot comprehend the magnitude of all

this and tries to "think of the solution"
You, become confused and seek answers both at the rational

level and subconscoius level.
Here's an example; I coached a diplomat for a while who

drank a lot at night, he couldn't understand why he did

this (rational mind) and wanted it to stop.
He came to me for help; after talking for a while I began

 to ask him questions.
Me "If you didn't drink at night what would you do?'
Him "Why I'd work of course, I'm very busy and need to

continue working at home"
Me "When you do drink what do you do?"
Him "I tend to watch TV or sit and talk in the garden"
Me "What's great about doing that for you?"
Him "Great? what do you mean? I'm here for help not to

have you cheer leading me drinking!"
Me "Listen, you're here for help, play with me here and

lets see where this takes us ok?"
Him nodding "OK, well I guess I do spend some great

time with my son at night and I really enjoy getting to

know him more and it's nice to talk with my wife and

forget about work for a while…."
See where this is going?
It turns out he loved spending time with his family but

felt guilty about doing that due to some percieved earlier

pain from his father, so his subconscious mind had started

him drinking knowing this would kill 2 birds with 1 stone;
Stop him working

Get him relaxed
We may say this is bad behaviour to drink yet it is the most

elegant solution to this problem.
Here's what I've learnt;
All behaviour serves. Procrastinating for instance generally

means you're not ready and need more information, we have

labelled this bad, yet the opposite is true.
Everything you do serves, think you did someone wrong in

 your past? Think again, everything serves, we are inexplicably

drawn to those that we need to meet to learn our lessons. 
Everything serves.
The subconscience is trying to meet a need, so far the only

need I've seen consistently is the need to love and be loved. 
So I have to assume this is the over riding creative drive for

everything we do.
But your subconsious does not work in a rational way, it has

FAR more resources available to it than mere thought, thus

it creates the simplest way to do that through your behaviour.
Your rational mind tries to understand a complex (to your

rational mind) sequence of events but in truth never can.
Einstein said it best:
“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is

a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors

the servant and has forgotten the gift.”
So next time you don't understand why you're doing something

or why someone else is doing something just realize that they

are trying to be loved or give love and their behaviour is the sum

of their subconscious mind with all it's resources finding the

simplest and most elegant way to do that.
Neil